My Brother Update

NOTE: This is my brother from another Father.

The story behind it all:

Today, May 2nd, we noticed that My mom and brother incident made the front page of BOTH local newspapers…I was SHOCKED!!! Apparently, the person who saved my mom’s life might get a Bravery reward…and the person was male and swung a golf club at Andrew and hit him when Andrew tried to threaten him with the knife…WOW!!! This was really weird to see on the front page…’cause YOU KNOW I use to be that man with the golf club…well I didn’t exactly use a golf club…but I know I was always trying to break up fights…Andrew is just a lot bigger now and is so much harder to control!!! When he was just 1 years old he broke the railing off his crib in a temper tantrum and THAT’S when we knew we THOUGHT he need a bed instead of the crib. But Andrew was also very loving…he always knew what type of gift made me feel warm and fuzzy inside. I still have one of those gifts…a miniture book from a local Christian bookstore that tells me on each page why having a sister such as myself is great!!! He is my little brother, he always will be and I hope and pray one day he will return a lot more calmer…I just thought he’d grow out of it…too bad how things have happened now. I feel bad. Bad for my mom. I sometimes feel guilty that I wasn’t there to break them up.

Here is the write up if you’re interested: (I removed place names)
Neighbor Intervenes With Golf Club

A neighbour’s golf swing likely prevented a woman from being stabbed to death by her son Saturday night.

“The timely intervention of the neighbour likely saved her life, or at the very least prevented more serious injuries,” said Police Const. Casey Vinet.

“We’re considering recommending the individual for a bravery award.”

The man, wielding a golf club, stepped in after hearing his neighbour screaming as she was being attacked by her 18-year-old son, said Vinet.

The son had his mother on the ground in the yard of their home around 10:30 p.m., and was beating her about the face when a neighbour with a golf club told him to leave her alone.

The son stopped hitting his mother, but went into the house for a knife, returned outside, and proceeded to threaten the neighbour and stab his mom in the abdomen.

That’s when the neighbour struck the son with the club.

In the following struggle, the neighbour managed to hang on to the club long enough for police to arrive and arrest the son.

According to Vinet, the young man is well known to police.

“Family violence comes in a number of different forms for many reasons,” he said.

“But an attack this severe on his own mother is concerning. I think it’s fair to say we’re dealing with an emotionally disturbed individual, and we’ve recommended a psychiatric assessment.”

The mother underwent surgery at the Hospital for her injuries, and is now in serious but stable condition.

Police are recommending charges of attempted murder for the son, who was expected to appear in provincial


Now, August 21 2007, a couple months later and I have not seen or heard from either my mom or brother. This is on purpose, as I can not sleep when I do and I can’t stop crying when I think of what happened. (My husband always tells people, "we are not talking about it" or "please don’t talk to Demara about it, b/c it stresses her out TOO much"…)

You know my Mom had a bit of amnesia too? Because when I was in the hospital visiting her, she asked if I worked at Wal-Mart that day, and I said, "no", but thought to myself I have not worked there for a year!!! This shook me up so much! My mom (who has no family after this-it’s a long story-but has a few friends) has always been VERY protective, a VERY good Christian, a bit slow mentally, but the one with the VERY good memory, nieve, hyper, and shy, but if my brother or I didn’t listen she’d blow up physically, too.

My brother has always had a temper, anger problem, but he’s also VERY sweet, helpful, smart, and strong. I think that the part of the brain that controls logic has been damaged (from the drug and alcohol abuse he experimented with), so now I don’t think he knows right from wrong.

When these two lived together it was explosive, if you can imagine? I still feel guilty sometimes for leaving them alone, but I got married and it was my time to leave. I was usually the peacemaker in the family. Although, it was hard when wooden chairs and hockey sticks were being thrown at me or wacked on me. It WAS a bit screwed up, meaning our family, the combination of all three of us, seemed to need 3, 2 would always fight and the third one (that wasn’t fighting) would break up the other two. Sometimes it was a neighbor guy friend of mine that would intervene too. He was a great friend for Andrew. But the friend got older and moved away just like I did. I think when that happened, Andrew felt alone.

Andrew (who is now in prison, as far as I know) didn’t have enough patience to deal with my Mom’s shy mental slowness which just got worse (from stress) when Andrew was uncontrollable on drugs and alcohol. She thought he was just hyper and so she got him medicine for that, combine that medicine with the alcohol and drugs and you have a many damaged brain cells. Poor guy! (I still remember when he was 2. So innocent, so young, so fresh to this world, with not a brain cell dead, and this makes me sad.) Crying…